A definition of interdependence is: “a reciprocal relation between interdependent entities."The key word here is: "reciprocal."Interdependence can be thought of as a relationship where each party giv…
Now that we are on the road of recovery (that is, not dissociated) and no longer need alcohol to achieve a dissociated state, we understand The Ten Stage study course.…
The Stages institute self-reflection on where our acting out behaviour might have come from we make an acknowledgement that our disturbed patterns are simply a replication of the traumas done to us w…
No one is perfect. No one. Not ONE self-help person you look up to is the perfect image that you imagine them to be. In many ways, those of us who are the "Gurus" are the most messed up ones because …
The most common ego identifications have to do with possessions, the work you do, social status and recognition, knowledge and education, physical appearance, special abilities, relationships, person…
Recovery is not imagining figures of spirituality but making the child withins darkness conscious …
The fellowships admit that we don’t have a true self within that can heal and regain control over our lives, and that this is the reason – not all of our unresolved childhood traumas! – that our life…
Avoiding the deepest levels of pain is part of the fellowships mentality. They replace the depression of the alcoholic with the grandiosity and dissociation of so-called recovery. This is a spiritual…
The fellowships protects the abusive parents, many of whom are its members. But more so it protects alcoholics themselves from feeling their deeper pain, because anyone who learns the full truth of h…
Alcoholism is not the disease: the unenlightened family is the disease. Alcoholics were not born so: they were created. They drink themselves into oblivion not because of bad genetics but because of …
The fellowships has helped millions to stop drinking/druging, which is a vital step for everyone on the path to recovery, but its inherent limits as a program prevent its members from becoming fully …
Being in our recovery doesn’t mean we are a pushover. In fact, many times in our recovery we need to set boundaries. The key is balance. Too many boundaries and you close off; no boundaries and you…
People pleasing. Not wanting to miss out on the fun. Restlessness. Overthinking. Scared to be me in company. Scared to be me alone. Frightened of offending someone. Feeling on the periphery of everyt…
