Dissociation Identity Disorder: Many of us are co-dependent and Dissociated

<a href="https://dissociationidentitydisorder.blogspot.com/2018/10/many-of-us-are-co-dependent-and.html?spref=bl">Dissociation Identity Disorder: Many of us are co-dependent and Dissociated</a>: Many of us are co-dependent and Dissociated. What's important to remember though is that you're a human BEING, not a human DOING w...

Dissociation Identity Disorder: Many of us are co-dependent and Dissociated

Dissociation Identity Disorder: Many of us are co-dependent and Dissociated : Many of us are co-dependent and Dissociated. What's import...

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Weaponising Mindfulness: We have addiction limitations.

<a href="https://mindfulnesshitsandexitwounds.blogspot.com/2018/12/we-have-addiction-limitations.html?spref=bl">Weaponising Mindfulness: We have addiction limitations.</a>: We have addiction limitations. They are worth befriending. They teach us a lot. They can show us what we most need to pay attention to and...<br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Weaponising Mindfulness: We have addiction limitations.

Weaponising Mindfulness: We have addiction limitations. : We have addiction limitations. They are worth befriending. They teach us a lot. Th...

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Weaponising Mindfulness: We might become aware of how addicted we can be to...

<a href="https://mindfulnesshitsandexitwounds.blogspot.com/2018/12/we-might-become-aware-of-how-addicted.html?spref=bl">Weaponising Mindfulness: We might become aware of how addicted we can be to...</a>: We might become aware of how addicted we can be to our devices, and to that 24/7 connectivity that has us always available and immediately...

Weaponising Mindfulness: We might become aware of how addicted we can be to...

Weaponising Mindfulness: We might become aware of how addicted we can be to... : We might become aware of how addicted we can be to our devi...

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Aged 50 and over struggling to cope with addiction following retirement.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://2.bp.blogspot.com/-cahyrFBpM48/WqZAoDULP4I/AAAAAAAAeuM/Z33S2G9kdQgSrl7slifrAtqYZyJAOBYYQCLcBGAs/s1600/soberistagroup90.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1200" data-original-width="1600" height="240" src="https://2.bp.blogspot.com/-cahyrFBpM48/WqZAoDULP4I/AAAAAAAAeuM/Z33S2G9kdQgSrl7slifrAtqYZyJAOBYYQCLcBGAs/s320/soberistagroup90.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Aged 50 and over struggling to cope with addiction following retirement. Between six and 10 per cent of elderly hospital admissions are alcohol-related , and it is not just alcoholism that affects retirees. Prescription painkiller addiction is also on the rise, and many seniors suffering from addiction go unnoticed by loved ones and medical professionals alike.<br /><br />It is easy to assume loneliness and isolation are to blame for elderly addiction, but it also has much to do with the brain’s reward system. Retirees, especially those who previously held high positions, no longer receive the natural dopamine release they were once used to and often turn to substances to achieve the same familiar high.<br /><br />Experts say it is difficult to recognise addiction symptoms in those over 60 because medical professionals assume symptoms are a result of ageing and the declining health that naturally comes with it. This means the problem could potentially worsen if effective  treatment is not actively recommended to those in need.</span><div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;"><br /> In the UK, one in 10 women in alcohol dependency programmes is over 60 years old, a 65 per cent increase in the five years .</span></div>

Aged 50 and over struggling to cope with addiction following retirement.

Aged 50 and over struggling to cope with addiction following retirement. Between six and 10 per cent of elderly hospital admissions are al...

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Alcohol Awareness Week: How To Help A Loved One You Think Is Drinking Too Much

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://2.bp.blogspot.com/-W_WZnID1qEA/WM1eR15XuCI/AAAAAAAAbc0/rDSCy_yrLx03wwwcLfFSq3jdoXwKstnKwCPcBGAYYCw/s1600/12696907_563683613798693_1138828631851146441_o.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="900" data-original-width="1600" height="112" src="https://2.bp.blogspot.com/-W_WZnID1qEA/WM1eR15XuCI/AAAAAAAAbc0/rDSCy_yrLx03wwwcLfFSq3jdoXwKstnKwCPcBGAYYCw/s200/12696907_563683613798693_1138828631851146441_o.jpg" width="200" /></a></div> <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/entry/how-to-help-a-loved-one-struggling-with-alcohol_uk_5a058227e4b05673aa58bed2">Alcohol Awareness Week: How To Help A Loved One You Think Is Drinking Too Much</a>: <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <a href="https://chrome.google.com/webstore/detail/pengoopmcjnbflcjbmoeodbmoflcgjlk" style="font-size: 13px;">'via Blog this'</a>

Alcohol Awareness Week: How To Help A Loved One You Think Is Drinking Too Much

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Women's brains crave alcohol when estrogen levels are high | Daily Mail Online

<a href="http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-5058433/Women-s-brains-crave-alcohol-estrogen-levels-high.html">Women's brains crave alcohol when estrogen levels are high | Daily Mail Online</a>: <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <a href="https://chrome.google.com/webstore/detail/pengoopmcjnbflcjbmoeodbmoflcgjlk" style="font-size: 13px;">'via Blog this'</a><br /> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://2.bp.blogspot.com/-W_WZnID1qEA/WM1eR15XuCI/AAAAAAAAbc0/rDSCy_yrLx03wwwcLfFSq3jdoXwKstnKwCPcBGAYYCw/s1600/12696907_563683613798693_1138828631851146441_o.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="900" data-original-width="1600" height="112" src="https://2.bp.blogspot.com/-W_WZnID1qEA/WM1eR15XuCI/AAAAAAAAbc0/rDSCy_yrLx03wwwcLfFSq3jdoXwKstnKwCPcBGAYYCw/s200/12696907_563683613798693_1138828631851146441_o.jpg" width="200" /></a></div>

Women's brains crave alcohol when estrogen levels are high | Daily Mail Online

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"RECOVERY TABLE" Spiritual Awakening, Alcoholism and Addiction Recovery: Carlos Santana

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-Thvj2RD_dYY/WM1gv7Gi37I/AAAAAAAAbc8/MXULqqPXfKIDz07oRju6MZtjmqsDUDrAwCPcBGAYYCw/s1600/562028_482384345163102_569856234_n.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="787" data-original-width="505" height="200" src="https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-Thvj2RD_dYY/WM1gv7Gi37I/AAAAAAAAbc8/MXULqqPXfKIDz07oRju6MZtjmqsDUDrAwCPcBGAYYCw/s200/562028_482384345163102_569856234_n.jpg" width="127" /></a></div> <a href="http://recoverytable.blogspot.co.uk/search/label/Carlos%20Santana">"RECOVERY TABLE" Spiritual Awakening, Alcoholism and Addiction Recovery: Carlos Santana</a>: <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <a href="https://chrome.google.com/webstore/detail/pengoopmcjnbflcjbmoeodbmoflcgjlk" style="font-size: 13px;">'via Blog this'</a><br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

"RECOVERY TABLE" Spiritual Awakening, Alcoholism and Addiction Recovery: Carlos Santana

"RECOVERY TABLE" Spiritual Awakening, Alcoholism and Addiction Recovery: Carlos Santana : 'via Blog this' The Ten ...

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TV reviews: Louis Theroux: Dark States + Snowfall - The Courier

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <br /> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-iARAbPt60Ao/U4mydTcagoI/AAAAAAAANe4/XfU08KH8J2QW9NmX3n-uKxrjG-W-2Yh6gCPcBGAYYCw/s1600/1-sobercover-PNG-61.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="312" data-original-width="608" height="164" src="https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-iARAbPt60Ao/U4mydTcagoI/AAAAAAAANe4/XfU08KH8J2QW9NmX3n-uKxrjG-W-2Yh6gCPcBGAYYCw/s320/1-sobercover-PNG-61.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <a href="https://www.thecourier.co.uk/fp/lifestyle/entertainment/tv-film/paul-whitelaw-reviews/522267/tv-reviews-louis-theroux-dark-states-snowfall/">TV reviews: Louis Theroux: Dark States + Snowfall - The Courier</a>: <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <a href="https://chrome.google.com/webstore/detail/pengoopmcjnbflcjbmoeodbmoflcgjlk" style="font-size: 13px;">'via Blog this'</a>

TV reviews: Louis Theroux: Dark States + Snowfall - The Courier

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Ronald Hiers looks back on viral video of overdose | Daily Mail Online

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-Z0J1q7PKmd0/T9UphqS2kYI/AAAAAAAAK-8/8Tj-CM9L7Fceyhj_7YvxtXa9HVZUOHxjACPcBGAYYCw/s1600/true%2Bcons.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="100" data-original-width="800" height="40" src="https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-Z0J1q7PKmd0/T9UphqS2kYI/AAAAAAAAK-8/8Tj-CM9L7Fceyhj_7YvxtXa9HVZUOHxjACPcBGAYYCw/s320/true%2Bcons.JPG" width="320" /></a></div> <a href="http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-4980582/Former-drug-addict-looks-viral-video-overdose.html">Ronald Hiers looks back on viral video of overdose | Daily Mail Online</a>: <br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <a href="https://chrome.google.com/webstore/detail/pengoopmcjnbflcjbmoeodbmoflcgjlk" style="font-size: 13px;">'via Blog this'</a><br /> <br /> The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com

Ronald Hiers looks back on viral video of overdose | Daily Mail Online

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The Child Within never changes; other people change all the time.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://2.bp.blogspot.com/-Thvj2RD_dYY/WM1gv7Gi37I/AAAAAAAAbc4/B995rdpwl00TRej6UvzUeNw8zqFpmDI4wCLcB/s1600/562028_482384345163102_569856234_n.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="https://2.bp.blogspot.com/-Thvj2RD_dYY/WM1gv7Gi37I/AAAAAAAAbc4/B995rdpwl00TRej6UvzUeNw8zqFpmDI4wCLcB/s320/562028_482384345163102_569856234_n.jpg" width="204" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">A definition of interdependence is: “a reciprocal relation between interdependent entities."<br /><br />The key word here is: "reciprocal."<br /><br />Interdependence can be thought of as a relationship where each party gives and receives from his or her own internal overflow. This is TOTALLY different than "codependence" which can be thought of as being "addicted to someone."</span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br />Another way to look at it, is this:<br /><br />A codependent person makes someone else his or her Higher Power. An interdependent person knows that The Child Within is their Power and keeps their focus on that, while choosing to be in a relationship with someone else who is also looking to The Child Within to fulfil them.<br />You see, when we make someone else our Power, we are REALLY setting ourselves up for pain. This is a top cause of pain in recovery.<br /><br />We are looking to someone else for something they can never give us, which is perfect and unwavering peace. There is only one place this type of unconditional peace comes from and that is The Child Within when it is acknowledged.</span><br /> <blockquote class="tr_bq"> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">The Child Within never changes; other people change all the time. When we keep our eyes on The Child and surrender to Its will for us, we take everyone else off the hook for our happiness. We no longer seek to take compassion from them, but to show up from a place of overflow and give Loving Kindness to them.</span></blockquote> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br />This kind of relationship creates really great givers and FORgivers. This is the cornerstone of having an awesome and long-lasting relationship with ourselves.<br /><br /><i style="background-color: #6fa8dc;">Are you making a person your Higher Power? </i><br /><br />Are you ready to take your eyes off of them and put your eyes instead toward The Child Within and accept Its perfect peace and contentment for you? </span>

The Child Within never changes; other people change all the time.

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Now that we are on the road of recovery

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-vQtkrDFdN9k/U4xn7ol8RtI/AAAAAAAANos/jw0VXbWfI1oGSMfhgwqhgcYEdIGGkc63wCPcB/s1600/Drew-Darcy---Original-Sin--Apple-.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-vQtkrDFdN9k/U4xn7ol8RtI/AAAAAAAANos/jw0VXbWfI1oGSMfhgwqhgcYEdIGGkc63wCPcB/s1600/Drew-Darcy---Original-Sin--Apple-.jpg" /></a></div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Now that we are on the road of recovery (that is, not dissociated) and no longer need alcohol to achieve a dissociated state, we understand The Ten Stage study course.</span>

Now that we are on the road of recovery

Now that we are on the road of recovery (that is, not dissociated) and no longer need alcohol to achieve a dissociated state, we underst...

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The fellowships force ourselves down a blind alley, and further cutting ourself off the from deeper root of ourself.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">The Stages institute self-reflection on where our acting out behaviour might have come from we make an acknowledgement that our disturbed patterns are simply a replication of the traumas done to us when we were vulnerable and innocent and powerless in our families as a child, We will not admit all the bad things that we have done to others, and not only that, we will not cement this list of our badness into place by admitting it to this externalised God (which we are not convinced is separate from the essence of us!) and to us who buy into this deluded and dissociative philosophy.</span><div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">The fellowships force ourselves down a blind alley, and further cutting ourself off the from deeper root of ourself.</span></div>

The fellowships force ourselves down a blind alley, and further cutting ourself off the from deeper root of ourself.

The Stages institute self-reflection on where our acting out behaviour might have come from we make an acknowledgement that our disturbed ...

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To not aim for perfection, but rather express ourselves as we are, strong, scared and in human form.

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-Z1U4iK0vfCM/VS5NZ1ZJeFI/AAAAAAAARx8/js6_RMTxPLM/s1600/578041_418284531630366_837925037_n.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="133" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-Z1U4iK0vfCM/VS5NZ1ZJeFI/AAAAAAAARx8/js6_RMTxPLM/s200/578041_418284531630366_837925037_n.jpg" width="200" /></a></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #0b175f; font-family: arial; font-size: 12px;"> <span style="color: black; font-family: georgia; font-size: 12pt;">No one is perfect. No one. Not ONE self-help person you look up to is the perfect image that you imagine them to be. In many ways, those of us who are the "Gurus" are the most messed up ones because we have come to teach what we need to learn ourselves.</span></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #0b175f; font-family: arial; font-size: 12px;"> <br /></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #0b175f; font-family: arial; font-size: 12px;"> <span style="color: black; font-family: georgia; font-size: 12pt;">The good news here is that we can now use our pain, our weakness, our shortcomings and our mistakes not as more reasons for us to be WRONG but we can now share them authentically and know that we are not alone.</span></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #0b175f; font-family: arial; font-size: 12px;"> <br /></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #0b175f; font-family: arial; font-size: 12px;"> <span style="color: black; font-family: georgia; font-size: 12pt;">In allowing our humanity, empathy and compassion to emerge, so does a sense of connection.</span></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #0b175f; font-family: arial; font-size: 12px;"> <br /></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #0b175f; font-family: arial; font-size: 12px;"> <span style="color: black; font-family: georgia; font-size: 12pt;">Life is messy. We mess up. We have great moments. We have horrible moments. We have brilliant moments. The goal is to allow and admit them all. To be willing to look bad, silly or goofy.</span></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #0b175f; font-family: arial; font-size: 12px;"> <br /></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #0b175f; font-family: arial; font-size: 12px;"> <span style="color: black; font-family: georgia; font-size: 12pt;">To not aim for perfection, but rather express ourselves as we are, strong, scared and in human form.</span></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #0b175f; font-family: arial; font-size: 12px;"> <br /></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #0b175f; font-family: arial; font-size: 12px;"> <span style="color: black; font-family: georgia; font-size: 12pt;">So, if you want to inspire someone, do it with who you are BEING, not what you are saying.</span></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #0b175f; font-family: arial; font-size: 12px;"> <br /></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #0b175f; font-family: arial; font-size: 12px;"> <span style="color: black; font-family: georgia; font-size: 12pt;">How can you do a better job of linking up what you SAY with what you DO?</span></div> <div style="background-color: white; color: #0b175f; font-family: arial; font-size: 12px;"> <br /></div> </div>

To not aim for perfection, but rather express ourselves as we are, strong, scared and in human form.

No one is perfect. No one. Not ONE self-help person you look up to is the perfect image that you imagine them to be. In many ways, those...

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The most common ego identifications have to do with possessions

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-qNJP3b_iN6g/VTYNULqzVoI/AAAAAAAASCc/uGjDkN9VLac/s1600/1-10449518_794922233911106_177814202340947204_n.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="113" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-qNJP3b_iN6g/VTYNULqzVoI/AAAAAAAASCc/uGjDkN9VLac/s200/1-10449518_794922233911106_177814202340947204_n.jpg" width="200" /></a></div> <em style="background-color: white; font-family: georgia; font-size: 16px;">The most common ego identifications have to do with possessions, the work you do, social status and recognition, knowledge and education, physical appearance, special abilities, relationships, personal and family history, belief systems, and often political, nationalistic, racial, religious, and other collective identifications. None of these is you.</em><br /> <div class="zemanta-related" style="clear: both; margin-top: 20px; overflow: hidden;"> <h4 class="zemanta-related-title"> Related articles</h4> <ul class="zemanta-article-ul zemanta-article-ul-image" style="margin: 0; overflow: hidden; padding: 0;"> <li class="zemanta-article-ul-li-image zemanta-article-ul-li" style="background: none; display: block; float: left; font-size: 11px; list-style: none; margin: 2px 10px 10px 2px; padding: 0; text-align: left; vertical-align: top; width: 84px;"><a href="http://galatictours.blogspot.com/2013/06/beware-of-malignant-narcissists.html" style="border-radius: 2px; box-shadow: 0px 0px 4px #999; display: block; padding: 2px; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank"><img src="//i.zemanta.com/noimg_104_80_80.jpg" style="border: 0; display: block; margin: 0; max-width: 100%; padding: 0; width: 80px;" /></a><a href="http://galatictours.blogspot.com/2013/06/beware-of-malignant-narcissists.html" style="background-image: none; display: block; height: 83px; line-height: 12pt; overflow: hidden; padding: 5px 2px 0 2px; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank">Beware of malignant narcissists. Avoid them before they destroy you.</a></li> </ul> </div> </div>

The most common ego identifications have to do with possessions

The most common ego identifications have to do with possessions, the work you do, social status and recognition, knowledge and education,...

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Recovery is not imagining figures of spirituality

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-qNJP3b_iN6g/VTYNULqzVoI/AAAAAAAASCc/uGjDkN9VLac/s1600/1-10449518_794922233911106_177814202340947204_n.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="113" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-qNJP3b_iN6g/VTYNULqzVoI/AAAAAAAASCc/uGjDkN9VLac/s200/1-10449518_794922233911106_177814202340947204_n.jpg" width="200" /></a></div> <em style="background-color: white; font-family: georgia; font-size: 16px;">Recovery is not imagining figures of spirituality but making the child withins darkness conscious</em></div>

Recovery is not imagining figures of spirituality

Recovery is not imagining figures of spirituality but making the child withins darkness conscious

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You cant cure measles by treating the rash

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-fMe9qI7j8Tk/VTBL8ItfprI/AAAAAAAAR28/6JQLP_r3RrQ/s1600/addiction%2Bcommunity%2Bvoice.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="240" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-fMe9qI7j8Tk/VTBL8ItfprI/AAAAAAAAR28/6JQLP_r3RrQ/s320/addiction%2Bcommunity%2Bvoice.png" width="320" /></a></div> The fellowships admit that we don’t have a true self within that can heal and regain control over our lives, and that this is the reason – not all of our unresolved childhood traumas! – that our life has become so disturbed and dysfunctional. We admit that the root of our problem is alcohol, not all the trauma we experienced as children and cannot acknowledge, and that’s why we come to the fellowships. If only we can cure the symptom then everything will be okay! (So untrue!) 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You cant cure measles by treating the rash

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Perpetuating the addictive cycle of self-delusion.

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-lUpF_BckZLc/VQnbsAhstBI/AAAAAAAAQOw/-e3pP28K4sQ/s1600/1-disoccatian.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="200" src="https://2.bp.blogspot.com/-lUpF_BckZLc/VQnbsAhstBI/AAAAAAAAQOw/-e3pP28K4sQ/s200/1-disoccatian.jpg" width="172" /></a></div> <br /> <br /> Avoiding the deepest levels of pain is part of the fellowships mentality. They replace the depression of the alcoholic with the grandiosity and dissociation of so-called recovery. This is a spiritual step backwards . The Fellowships believes that full spirituality is attainable by simply admitting the damage you’ve done to others and making amends. This is untrue. Admitting your past wrongs does lessen the cycle of guilt and shame, but does not resolve your own traumas – the damage done to you by your parents. Traumas must be addressed and fully grieved and mourned for deeper healing to take place.<br /> <br /> Any program, that thinks you can heal without fully exhuming, grieving, and ultimately healing your traumas is siding with your abusive parents and perpetuating the addictive cycle of self-delusion.</div>

Perpetuating the addictive cycle of self-delusion.

Avoiding the deepest levels of pain is part of the fellowships mentality. They replace the depression of the alcoholic with the grandio...

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The fellowships protects the abusive parents, many of whom are its members.

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-lUpF_BckZLc/VQnbsAhstBI/AAAAAAAAQOw/-e3pP28K4sQ/s1600/1-disoccatian.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="200" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-lUpF_BckZLc/VQnbsAhstBI/AAAAAAAAQOw/-e3pP28K4sQ/s200/1-disoccatian.jpg" width="172" /></a></div> The fellowships protects the abusive parents, many of whom are its members. But more so it protects alcoholics themselves from feeling their deeper pain, because anyone who learns the full truth of his parents’ cruelties is in for a horribly painful ride. Denying this truth may prevent some from relapsing, but it will prevent everyone from becoming fully recovered.</div>

The fellowships protects the abusive parents, many of whom are its members.

The fellowships protects the abusive parents, many of whom are its members. But more so it protects alcoholics themselves from feeling th...

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Alcoholics were not born so: they were created.

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://4.bp.blogspot.com/-1DDCRPTLVGw/W-_yMLQVyuI/AAAAAAAAgFg/NIzAkjjJ3WkL4KulXn9P11Qrdj_C-9NrgCLcBGAs/s1600/alcoholics%2Bdisease.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="960" data-original-width="678" height="320" src="https://4.bp.blogspot.com/-1DDCRPTLVGw/W-_yMLQVyuI/AAAAAAAAgFg/NIzAkjjJ3WkL4KulXn9P11Qrdj_C-9NrgCLcBGAs/s320/alcoholics%2Bdisease.jpg" width="226" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Alcoholism is not the disease: the unenlightened family is the disease. Alcoholics were not born so: they were created. They drink themselves into oblivion not because of bad genetics but because of the traumas resulting from childhood abuse, neglect, and rejection. No one raised in a truly loving home – whatever his chromosomes – could become an alcoholic. No one who had full connection with his true self – a fully non-traumatised person – would ever even want to experience even the mildest of dissociative pleasures of drinking alcohol at all.<br /></span>Related articles<br /> <div class="zemanta-related" style="clear: both; margin-top: 20px; overflow: hidden;"> <ul class="zemanta-article-ul zemanta-article-ul-image" style="margin: 0; overflow: hidden; padding: 0;"> <li class="zemanta-article-ul-li-image zemanta-article-ul-li" style="background: none; display: block; float: left; font-size: 11px; list-style: none; margin: 2px 10px 10px 2px; padding: 0; text-align: left; vertical-align: top; width: 84px;"><a href="http://tenstage.blogspot.com/2015/04/recovering-into-realitya-new-treatment.html" style="border-radius: 2px; box-shadow: 0px 0px 4px #999; display: block; padding: 2px; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank"><img src="//i.zemanta.com/noimg_0_80_80.jpg" style="border: 0; display: block; margin: 0; max-width: 100%; padding: 0; width: 80px;" /></a><a href="http://tenstage.blogspot.com/2015/04/recovering-into-realitya-new-treatment.html" style="background-image: none; display: block; height: 83px; line-height: 12pt; overflow: hidden; padding: 5px 2px 0 2px; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank">Recovering into Reality:A new treatment paradigm for recovery we acknowledge that Addicts/alcoholics are not born so: we are created.</a></li> </ul> </div> </div>

Alcoholics were not born so: they were created.

Alcoholism is not the disease: the unenlightened family is the disease. Alcoholics were not born so: they were created. They drink them...

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The fellowships has helped millions to stop drinking/druging

<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-fMe9qI7j8Tk/VTBL8ItfprI/AAAAAAAAR28/6JQLP_r3RrQ/s1600/addiction%2Bcommunity%2Bvoice.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="240" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-fMe9qI7j8Tk/VTBL8ItfprI/AAAAAAAAR28/6JQLP_r3RrQ/s320/addiction%2Bcommunity%2Bvoice.png" width="320" /></a></div> The fellowships has helped millions to stop drinking/druging, which is a vital step for everyone on the path to recovery, but its inherent limits as a program prevent its members from becoming fully recovered. The fellowships allows alcoholics a fellowship of peers, but it philosophy denies the full truth of the causes and effects – and thus cannot provide full awareness as to their recovery. As such, if its members go too far in expressing their true selves, they will not be accepted by the group.<br /> <div class="zemanta-related" style="clear: both; margin-top: 20px; overflow: hidden;"> <h4 class="zemanta-related-title"> Related articles</h4> <ul class="zemanta-article-ul zemanta-article-ul-image" style="margin: 0; overflow: hidden; padding: 0;"> <li class="zemanta-article-ul-li-image zemanta-article-ul-li" style="background: none; display: block; float: left; font-size: 11px; list-style: none; margin: 2px 10px 10px 2px; padding: 0; text-align: left; vertical-align: top; width: 84px;"><a href="http://stagesevents.blogspot.com/2015/04/we-think-its-great-that-stages-offer.html" style="border-radius: 2px; box-shadow: 0px 0px 4px #999; display: block; padding: 2px; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank"><img src="//i.zemanta.com/338528497_80_80.jpg" style="border: 0; display: block; margin: 0; max-width: 100%; padding: 0; width: 80px;" /></a><a href="http://stagesevents.blogspot.com/2015/04/we-think-its-great-that-stages-offer.html" style="background-image: none; display: block; height: 83px; line-height: 12pt; overflow: hidden; padding: 5px 2px 0 2px; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank">We think it's great that THE STAGES offer alternative activities for people coming off the isolation of trauma</a></li> <li class="zemanta-article-ul-li-image zemanta-article-ul-li" style="background: none; display: block; float: left; font-size: 11px; list-style: none; margin: 2px 10px 10px 2px; padding: 0; text-align: left; vertical-align: top; width: 84px;"><a href="http://socialpsychologists.blogspot.com/2015/04/the-truth-of-ourselves.html" style="border-radius: 2px; box-shadow: 0px 0px 4px #999; display: block; padding: 2px; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank"><img src="//i.zemanta.com/339080354_80_80.jpg" style="border: 0; display: block; margin: 0; max-width: 100%; padding: 0; width: 80px;" /></a><a href="http://socialpsychologists.blogspot.com/2015/04/the-truth-of-ourselves.html" style="background-image: none; display: block; height: 83px; line-height: 12pt; overflow: hidden; padding: 5px 2px 0 2px; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank">The Truth of ourselves</a></li> <li class="zemanta-article-ul-li-image zemanta-article-ul-li" style="background: none; display: block; float: left; font-size: 11px; list-style: none; margin: 2px 10px 10px 2px; padding: 0; text-align: left; vertical-align: top; width: 84px;"><a href="http://stagesevents.blogspot.com/2015/04/when-we-drop-our-self-centred.html" style="border-radius: 2px; box-shadow: 0px 0px 4px #999; display: block; padding: 2px; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank"><img src="//i.zemanta.com/339197483_80_80.jpg" style="border: 0; display: block; margin: 0; max-width: 100%; padding: 0; width: 80px;" /></a><a href="http://stagesevents.blogspot.com/2015/04/when-we-drop-our-self-centred.html" style="background-image: none; display: block; height: 83px; line-height: 12pt; overflow: hidden; padding: 5px 2px 0 2px; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank">When we drop our self-centred motivations and allow all things to come toward us to carry out practice, that is realisation.</a></li> <li class="zemanta-article-ul-li-image zemanta-article-ul-li" style="background: none; display: block; float: left; font-size: 11px; list-style: none; margin: 2px 10px 10px 2px; padding: 0; text-align: left; vertical-align: top; width: 84px;"><a href="http://stagesevents.blogspot.com/2015/04/you-are-awareness-awareness-is-another.html" style="border-radius: 2px; box-shadow: 0px 0px 4px #999; display: block; padding: 2px; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank"><img src="//i.zemanta.com/339197490_80_80.jpg" style="border: 0; display: block; margin: 0; max-width: 100%; padding: 0; width: 80px;" /></a><a href="http://stagesevents.blogspot.com/2015/04/you-are-awareness-awareness-is-another.html" style="background-image: none; display: block; height: 83px; line-height: 12pt; overflow: hidden; padding: 5px 2px 0 2px; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank">You are awareness. 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The fellowships has helped millions to stop drinking/druging

The fellowships has helped millions to stop drinking/druging, which is a vital step for everyone on the path to recovery, but its inheren...

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