The key word here is: "reciprocal."
Interdependence can be thought of as a relationship where each party gives and receives from his or her own internal overflow. This is TOTALLY different than "codependence" which can be thought of as being "addicted to someone."
Another way to look at it, is this:
A codependent person makes someone else his or her Higher Power. An interdependent person knows that The Child Within is their Power and keeps their focus on that, while choosing to be in a relationship with someone else who is also looking to The Child Within to fulfil them.
You see, when we make someone else our Power, we are REALLY setting ourselves up for pain. This is a top cause of pain in recovery.
We are looking to someone else for something they can never give us, which is perfect and unwavering peace. There is only one place this type of unconditional peace comes from and that is The Child Within when it is acknowledged.
The Child Within never changes; other people change all the time. When we keep our eyes on The Child and surrender to Its will for us, we take everyone else off the hook for our happiness. We no longer seek to take compassion from them, but to show up from a place of overflow and give Loving Kindness to them.
This kind of relationship creates really great givers and FORgivers. This is the cornerstone of having an awesome and long-lasting relationship with ourselves.
Are you making a person your Higher Power?
Are you ready to take your eyes off of them and put your eyes instead toward The Child Within and accept Its perfect peace and contentment for you?
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